Things people fear:
2. Public speaking
10. Being alone
Why do we live lives dominated by fear? Fear is a negative emotion quite outside of reality. It conforms us into people we aren’t. It convinces us that we are helpless, disables us, takes energy from our lives, and makes the smallest task seem insurmountable.
I must introduce a new and completely basic thought: fear or confidence is our choice, and we must form a habit of confidence. Another thought: when you lack confidence, pretend. Nobody can tell, least of all you.
I am the sort of person who naturally feels like an inexperienced, timid kid. To combat this, I make a habit of putting my head up and walking at a fast, confident pace; hence, I have been told that I look aristocratic, or even arrogant. I’m five feet tall, and yet I intimidate people. Instead of acting the way I feel, I act the way I would like to appear to feel.
Secret: if you make this a habit long enough, you actually will become confident.