Monday, November 9, 2009


Things people fear:

1. Rejection
2. Public speaking
3. Insecurity
4. Failure
5. Performing
6. Criticism
7. Disappointment
8. Reality
9. Non-conformity
10. Being alone

Why do we live lives dominated by fear? Fear is a negative emotion quite outside of reality. It conforms us into people we aren’t. It convinces us that we are helpless, disables us, takes energy from our lives, and makes the smallest task seem insurmountable.

I must introduce a new and completely basic thought: fear or confidence is our choice, and we must form a habit of confidence. Another thought: when you lack confidence, pretend. Nobody can tell, least of all you.

I am the sort of person who naturally feels like an inexperienced, timid kid. To combat this, I make a habit of putting my head up and walking at a fast, confident pace; hence, I have been told that I look aristocratic, or even arrogant. I’m five feet tall, and yet I intimidate people. Instead of acting the way I feel, I act the way I would like to appear to feel.

Secret: if you make this a habit long enough, you actually will become confident.

1 comment:

  1. Boy, do I know about fear... and how controlling it can be!
    I had to get over public-speaking when I was not quite 17. I'm glad I did it :)
    I still struggle with insecurity at times but it's not what it used to be. AT ALL.
    Ah, Failure is a fear I know well. Particularly when it comes to driving. I fear failing and messing up to the point that it causes me to do so. And that is NOT good.
    BUT! God is helping me face my fear head on now and just tackle it. Have faith and trust. and just DO IT.

    Over the years I used to overcompensate by appearing to have confidence or at least act confident. That didn't always work out so well cause I really looked like a fool sometimes. But sometimes looking like a fool actually teaches me something and turns out to be a good thing in the end. I know it's hard to believe but it's true, sometimes.

    The main thing is to not to be wrapped up in trying to look/pretend to be confident so much that you lose sight of what you're actually setting out to do: the task at hand or whatnot.... =D